Fury the Wonder Cat

Fury’s arrival at our home – 2Dec2017

In December 2017, an early Christmas gift to me was the opportunity to adopt a cat from a local shelter. Being an animal lover, I’d missed having a furry companion and was looking forward to it.

The original agreement was to select a cat after family vacations at Christmas. About a week later after this announcement it seemed only prudent to go ahead to the local pet store to purchase some basic elements (food, food / water dispenser, litter, litter box). You know, just on the off-chance I found our new family member early one didn’t want to be caught unprepared.

I’m pretty sure my rationale was completely transparent. On arriving at the pet store that also just happened to showcase local shelter animals up for adoption, I zeroed in on a kitten. It was a cute-as-pie little mass of beautiful gray fluff, huge paws, and large ears. I could have disappeared into the fur tufts between his tow beans.

My pleas seemed to be getting me nowhere. After many walks through the aisles cajoling my spouse, I was told I could choose a cat early but only if I went to the local shelter to see all the possible cats, first.

 Once there, we looked at every cat. I focused on the least adoptable choices: The elderly, the blind or those with less than four legs. I asked my husband, “See any that really speak to you or you like?”. I was met with, “Eh, maybe.”

We made a second circle of the circuit of the walls of crates. When I asked again, he nodded to a crate where a tiny black kitten with startling gold eyes was snuggled next to a sibling kitten who was creamy buff in color. When I prodded further if this was one he wanted to see, I got a shrug and a “We can.”

We were ushered to the meet and greet room. I was conflicted at considering what appeared to be an otherwise healthy and normal cat vs. other cats who would need tremendous care (that I being a home-based worker could provide). I got settled on the concrete floor to ensure it saw me first and felt comfortable approaching me.

 As you might have guessed, when the volunteer arrived with the little dollop of fur, we waited quietly for her to get comfortable figuring it would take some warming up.

Fury meeting her humans for the first time – December 2017

And totally ignoring me on the floor, my Christmas present eyed my other half who was sitting in a chair in the corner with arms crossed looking stoic. Smart little thing, she read the room and knew who had to be convinced.

This miniature panther made a beeline to him with all of her tail straight up in the air, and jumped directly into his lap where she turned 2 times, sat down and purred.  I was in shock. This had never happened before with any animal in my presence. I was not even looked at. But I took it on the chin and went with it. We had been chosen, not the other way around.

Fury claiming her family – December 2017

And so, we drove home with a 4-month-old kitten.

The charade went on once we got home. She wouldn’t let me pick her up and was not interested in snuggles or cuddles. I was heartbroken thinking how could this be? And how would this cat-relationship work now? My husband assured me over and over it would all be fine.

Fury exploring her first toys – December 2017

We struggled for days as to what to name her. She reminded us of most was the DreamWorks movie, “How to Train Your Dragon” where one of the main characters is an animated black dragon named Toothless. This was a rare dragon called a Night Fury who came into his own special powers through overcoming obstacles. Fury the cat she became. There was something endearing that such a contrast in a ferocious name fitting such a lovable personality.

Fury loafing on my range bag – December 2017

Within a few days, thankfully, roles had totally reversed. I’m not sure if my husband sat her down and had a special kitty conversation, but I finally became her person and we have remained a pair ever since.

Fury continues to be a furry force of love and fun and I’ll share those adventures with pictures as we go along.

Fury with her favorite felt ribbon in the sun – December 2017

The Magic of Books

“What an astonishing thing a book is. It’s a flat object made from a tree with flexible parts on which are imprinted lots of funny dark squiggles. But one glance at it and you’re inside the mind of another person, maybe somebody dead for thousands of years. Across the millennia, an author is speaking clearly and silently inside your head, directly to you. Writing is perhaps the greatest of human inventions, binding together people who never knew each other, citizens of distant epochs. Books break the shackles of time. A book is proof that humans are capable of working magic.”

[Cosmos, Part 11: The Persistence of Memory (1980)]”

― Carl Sagan, Cosmos

The comfort of books has always been one of my favorite pleasures over the years. I have yet to find a better quote to express their value than Carl Sagan.

At the time of launching this blog, my Audible account has me clocking in at over one thousand titles and I must admit I have a large (and embarrassing) to-be-read pile on bookshelves. Books have taken me on countless adventures and allowed me to see the world through many different characters. They have also been my comfort when utterly alone in solitude.

My thoughts on some of these titles will have a presence in this blog. This is personal enjoyment, more so to challenge myself to reflect on the books I read and consider any takeaways that I find a value to revisit and consider via posts. This is a new practice for me and I look forward to whatever form it will take.

Lessons in Grace from a Terminal Spiker

Small phalaenopsis with terminal spike – October ’25

This poor little orchid gal is not going to make it. I bought her at Lowe’s a few weeks ago, knowing that being a terminal spike orchid, she wouldn’t last long unfortunately. She had the most beautiful blooms; I could not help myself.

As I watched her leaves yellow and her roots crinkle, I knew no amount of orchid fertilizer treatment or care would change this course. It was her time.

Terminal spike orchids may only have 2-3 years in them, from what I have read. I also never quite know what other bugs or rots have formed in their lives from nurseries to sellers in arid environments that shorten their lives, either. It could have been one of a many reasons why just after coming home with me, she gave out. All of her blooms spent, it was all she had.

And so, I reached for the keiki paste for the first time. I’ve had a few terminal orchids before and never had any keiki paste to try to encourage keiki growths with. This one motivated me to buy some and give it a go. (And yes, it’s true that even with a growth hormone like the paste, it’s still not a given a new baby plant will materialize).

Once it arrived, she had lost her last big leaf and her roots showed she was out of life.

But I still fertilized.

And I still made a tiny gouge in the last node left and applied the paste.

Just in case life decided to give it a go.

Yet, I was perfect accepting if it didn’t.

As I held this tiny orchid in my hands with sympathy and care, it hit deeply that I felt a little bit like this gal. I’ve had more days than I care to count where I had no more energy to thrive in my roots or leaves.

I considered how I might hold space for myself more often when I was on empty too. And how to do so without judgement as to whether I delivered or not. This thought brought me some acceptance that there was indeed extra room in coming days for me to give myself the same grace, if I remember to do it. And similarly, I could do so without judgement.

And so, I gently set her in the indirect light and left her to take her time with whatever came next, giving gratitude for sharing her beauty while she could. It was more than enough.

Frilly Doris Finally Bloomed

Frilly Doris barely holding her blooms in at late September 2025

Blooms started opening and things happened faster than expected! At the tail end of September, Frilly Doris’ buds started to crack open further, giving a tantalizing hint of the flowers to come.

This lovely plant is such a trooper with that slender spike holding such heavy blooms. I have been watching it bend further and further each day, wondering how it manages to not split at the base.

Frilly Doris on full display – early October 2025

And then, voila! Just like that, on the first of October she burst open, her dazzling blooms on fully display. When this girl blooms, she goes all out!

Frilly Doris on full display – early October 2025

And as icing on the cake, she has the most light and elegant citrus scent; absolutely divine.

“Where flowers bloom, so does hope – Lady Bird Johnson”

I am so happy with this orchid. It is going to be my mission to keep her going after she finishes with flowering. Interestingly different, uniquely herself, and when she blooms she lights up the room. She is my heart.

Marshmallow Indulgence

Marshmallow goodness

There is a joy in taking something ordinary and adding extra indulgence to it to make it extraordinary. I had already elevated my favorite coffee pod choices from my old friend, the Keurig machine, up to a French press.

I did not think things could get much better than that in the coffee world, but I was elated when one fine day I dropped in a handful of tiny, freeze-dried vanilla marshmallows.

Who knew that tiny little marshmallows could elevate one’s coffee experience to a private little feel-good party for one in your mug?

We must take care with ourselves some days. You know which days I am talking about. The days when it can be extra hard to be an adult, when you need a hug or maybe just some grace.

So friends, let little tiny vanilla marshmallows be that hug you give yourself.

You. Are. Worth. It. (And so much more!)

Marshmallow goodness (in a Wrendale Designs cup)

Bloom Watch: Frilly Doris

Frilly Doris early September 2025

Meet a recent orchid acquisition that I found at a local nursery named Catsetum Frilly Doris. Yes, that is the actual plant name: Frilly Doris.

Frilly Doris early September 2025

Occasionally I find plants that strike my fancy yet have no knowledge about them at all. I have learned my lesson that sometimes the cute specimen in a decorative container turns into a tree after a few short years, or is toxic to pets, or produces unexpected shapes that can draw blood – so I research now prior to purchasing.

Finding this interesting shape and such a wild name resulted in a quick online search on my mobile while I shopped. I stopped in my tracks, pulling my cart back to said orchid.

Frilly Doris in late September 2025

Color me curious, Frilly Doris apparently has a fascinating bloom color and shape. I’ve never had an orchid like it before. And like many orchids before it, this one exhibited the undocumented event of jumping invisibly into the shopping cart. (If you love plants, you’re likely aware of this botanic phenomenon).

Frilly Doris in late September 2025

Orchids remain hard to sustain out here in the arid conditions where I live, but I am keeping my fingers crossed on this one with weekly bucket soaks and misting via spray bottle.

I am looking forward to seeing her bloom soon and hopefully being able to keep her around for the long run.

Taste the Apples

Welcome! I am setting up shop to combine several blogs that span many years with the posts of the present. I used other sites from the past to capture different seasons of life. It felt right, back then, to start fresh each time with a new site and a new outlook. But here I am in middle age wanting to string it all together.

Maybe it’s age or perhaps it is a desire to steer towards calmer waters after a tumultuous last few years. I seek joy, peace, and wisdom more than anything else nowadays. Sometimes we find ourselves wanting to look back and reflect. We know more with gained experience and can look back with thoughtful hindsight.

I may never check off all the items on my bucket list and I may never have my own children to pass things down to. But I have lived these stories. And I am still journeying; sometimes with the fellowship of others and sometimes in solitude. But until the posts stop, I will keep doing the very best I can as I experience as much as I can, as best I can.

“Life will break you. Nobody can protect you from that, and being alone won’t either, for solitude will also break you with its yearning. You have to love. You have to feel. It is the reason you are here on earth. You have to risk your heart. You are here to be swallowed up. And when it happens that you are broken, or betrayed, or left, or hurt, or death brushes too near, let yourself sit by an apple tree and listen to the apples falling all around you in heaps, wasting their sweetness. Tell yourself that you tasted as many as you could.”

Louise Erdrich, The Painted Drum